10 guys that women should run from (not my opinion or article but maybe somebody

[Raineyrocks]

will find it helpful)   Actually I think most of us have already been through this crap so we already know but you never know maybe somebody will find it helpful!  Sorry guys I looked for an equal article about ten women guys should run from and didn't see one!


Ten guys women should run from

    * Story Highlights
    * There are certain types of men that women should run from
    * It may first appear charming, but jealous boyfriends will quickly get irritating
    * Watch out for guy who is looking for financial support
    * Don't give a guy with minor violent tendencies a second chance
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By Pam Houston
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(Oprah.com) -- One guy is needier than quicksand. Another is jealous of your cocker spaniel. A third quietly hates all womankind. Here's a list of men you should put in your rearview mirror, ASAP.
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Certain clues in the way a man acts may be a hint that you need to ditch him.

Joe No-Show
You meet in a city where neither of you lives, at a convention or a wedding. The calls and e-mails are making the phone lines sweat; two months later, he's begging you to visit.

You tell the woman next to you on the plane that, after years of searching, you think you've met The One, and the two of you giggle with anticipation all the way to baggage claim.

Thirty minutes later, when the carousel stops going around, she looks at you with deep pity and asks if she can give you a ride somewhere. That's the moment to go straight back to the ticket counter.

Mr. Jealousy
At first, he'll get a little short with a waiter who flirts with you. Then he'll be exasperated by how long you and the postmaster discuss the rising price of stamps. When he points out that you and your brother hug too long to be appropriate or that your gynecologist is a lesbian and obviously has the hots for you, it's time to give him his walking papers.

However flattering his jealousies may seem in the first five minutes of your relationship, they'll get old and confining more quickly than you can imagine, and when you do finally break up with him, he will hang the scarves you left behind on your trees like nooses and follow you and the next man you date all over town.

The Bully
This is the man who sits you down, grabs your arm, pulls your hair, or pokes your chest. While most of us know better than to let ourselves get socked in the mouth the way Ralph Kramden was always threatening to do to Alice (but even then never following through), there's a whole universe of more "minor" infractions in the violence department that should disqualify your new beau instantaneously (but all too often does not).
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The Two-Timer
For the first time since you've been dating, he's too sick to make a date. You try to ignore the fact that it happens to be your birthday, and you assemble the ingredients for your famous chicken soup. You drop it off inside his door.

Two days later, he's still sick, but you've been invited over. You ask if you can heat up some soup for him, and he says, in a small, congested voice, "That would be wonderful." You pour the soup from the Tupperware into the pot, and you see that there are mushrooms in it. Your famous chicken soup doesn't contain mushrooms. Conclude that this man has another source of soup and will continue to cheat on you for as long as you give him the chance.

The "Liberated" Man
I used to have a friend who said, "I seem to have a very liberating effect on whatever man I'm dating. We go on three dates, and the next thing I know he's moved in with me, he's quit his job, and his car is up on blocks in my yard."

Certain men are more prone to this type of liberation than others, I have found: Carpenters, river guides, and flamenco guitarists all fall into the category of men who are perfectly willing to hand themselves over to the care of a good woman, as well as visual artists, stage performers, and racers (ski, bike, boat) of all kinds.

The Betrayed
I seem to have dated an inordinate number of men who have just been left by a woman for a woman. In general, these men are angry beyond all reason, no matter to what lengths they may go to disguise it, and if you date one, be ready to give up all your girlfriends, or you will be accused of being a lesbian, too.

The Narcissist
He doesn't like your dog? Do we even need to talk about this one? Put it at the top of the category that includes he won't make eye contact with your kid, he doesn't want to meet your sister, and he whines the first time you make plans with your girlfriend.

A man threatened by the love you have for the dog you sleep with is going to be threatened by more things than you can name. Dating him is inviting the type of conflict into your life that will make you tired before you even get up in the morning.

Mr. Resentment
Pay close attention to how he handles your accomplishments. If you get a promotion with a raise and he breaks it down to show you how it really only amounts to six dollars a day after taxes, that's the first strike. When he uses any expression like "your little project," count that as two.

Just because men are having a hard time adjusting to the idea that women are capable breadwinners doesn't mean you have to martyr yourself into helping them make the transition. There are men out there who are more than happy to bask in the glow their women cast and to consider your talents a positive reflection on them.

The Virtual Lover
What a relief it is when a man doesn't try to force you into bed on the first date. How charmed you are when, on the third date, he says he wants to wait until "you both can't stand it anymore." How sympathetic you become when, on the sixth date, he tells you how badly he was hurt by your predecessor. How confused you are six months later when you've realized his pager goes off every time you get naked, but he's still sending you roses and talking teddy bears.

A surprising number of great romancers out there never get around to having sex. To the date-weary woman, this can seem like not the worst combination, but beware. Eventually he will blame his problems on the smell of your breath or the size of your thighs.

The Guy Who Had the Happiest Childhood This Side of the Beav
His mother was perfect; his father never smoked or drank or cheated. He hates the way his friends blame their parents for everything, when he and his seven brothers and sisters had love pouring down on them from the moment they woke in the morning until they went to bed.

However refreshing this might sound the first time you hear it, listen carefully for a voice that is trying to convince itself, listen for the creak and crack of a personal mythology in the throes of shattering. When it comes crashing to the ground, it's going to make a very big noise, and most likely your relationship will come crashing down with it.

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[kola]

insert "women" in place of "men".

now we are even. 

i met some pretty nastyass women in my times.

Kola

 

[Raineyrocks]

insert "women" in place of "men".

now we are even. 

i met some pretty nastyass women in my times.

Kola

 

Okay, that sounds fair as long as we don't eliminate the word men from it entirely!     I've run into some pretty cuckoo women myself so I totally agree it's a multi-gender issue!

[error]

How about the 10 women that men should run like hell from. It goes both ways, you know!

[kola]

lol..yeah rainey..see what you started. 


interesting that the author is a woman.

usually these "experts" are basket-cases themselves.

but I do agree that many women-beaters have certain tendencies, just like child molestors.

but not all.

Kola

[malcolm]

Fair enough.  The men described in the above post seem of pretty low quality to me as well.  In the spirit of Equal Caution and Offense, allow me to offer a cautionary list of my own.  The dating world can be fraught with people (both men and women) of dubious character.  Be warned, one and all.

(Disclaimers: The following is drawn from my own personal experience, and as such, I make no claim of universality (your mileage may vary).  I may (although I doubt it) be badly mistaken: Do Your Own Due Diligence.)

1- Miss Feminist
This woman postulates that all the ills of society are orchestrated by men, and that the best thing a man can do to improve himself is cut off his testicles and grow a pair of ovaries. She believes that women are angelic creatures who would make the world a utopia if only the male "patriarchy" would allow them to. Any woman who promotes these absurdities lives in a fantasy world and will have no problem at all treating a man in a way that she would never herself abide by. You can easily identify her by her incessant mantra, "All men think with their penises." Avoid her at all costs.

2- Miss Take
She's out for your money -- pure and simple. Miss Take is the ultimate in high maintenance. She expects a man to finance her entire life just because she is biologically female. To her, a man should pay for drinks, dinners, trips, flowers, and jewelry, while she feels absolutely no guilt or compulsion to reciprocate. She is nothing but a whitewashed prostitute. Miss Take thinks her vagina is plated with gold and is worth a million dollars. She is greed personified. Since she has no concept of someone else's feelings, her only interest is in getting what she wants. And don't be fooled -- some apparently very "nice" girls are the greediest of them all.

3- Miss Romance
This type of woman lives in a fantasy world of Lifetime Channel movies and romance novels. Every night she goes home alone to spend hours flipping through her bride magazines, imagining that, at any moment, Prince Charming will ride up on his white horse, sweep her off her feet, and offer her a problem-free existence for the rest of her life. The Miss Romances of the world have been coddled by parents and family, told they are "princesses," and have absolutely no idea that real life consists of paying bills and cleaning toilets. Miss Romance will expect to be taken care of, will be a dud in bed, and will, almost overnight, turn into a shrieking nag. Run.

4- Miss Elusive
This woman is closely allied to Miss Romance, but with a dark side. She is usually one of the "walking wounded" -- someone who has been hurt in past relationships and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present. Your association with her will be one of utter frustration, as first she shows great interest in you, but very quickly runs away -- then repeats this cycle over and over again. Miss Elusive is the queen of mixed messages. She will flirt with you and date you, but you'll never get past "friend" status. What you will get is a million excuses for her unavailability, all calculated to deceive herself that she just doesn't have time for a relationship. Save yourself some heartache -- don't get involved with her.

5- Miss Angry
Like Miss Feminists, Miss Angrys really don't like men. They scorn the male gender and can rattle off all the wrongs and misdeeds of every man they've ever encountered, but without the paleo-feminist pseudo-academic sheen. To Miss Angry, there's no such thing as a nice guy -- they're all "jerks," "creeps" and "pigs." Many of them have lots of simmering anger at men, which can explode at any moment like an erupting volcano. Unless you're into lots of drama and screaming, stay away.

6- Miss Insecure
This woman seems great at the start because she's very nice, accommodating and treats men well. But her inner insecurities don't take long to surface. Pretty soon she's calling you 10 times a day, asking to see "where the relationship is going," or because she "just wants to hear your voice." She needs constant reassurance that she's attractive, and worries incessantly about her makeup, hair and the alignment of her clothes. She's clingy, needy and compulsively agonizes that you're going to leave her at any moment for "someone better." This kind of thing can get really creepy really fast.

7- Miss Bitch
Miss Bitches are the sulkers, pouters and ball-busters of the female world. They are very unpleasant people who treat their fellow humans poorly, care only about themselves, and aren't concerned at all if they hurt you or anybody else. Most Miss Bitches qualify as Miss Takes, too. Miss Bitches are usually good-looking and well dressed, and you can easily identify them by the scowls on their faces as they imperiously strut through the world.

8- Miss Me
A close relative of Miss Bitch, Miss Me is entirely focused on herself. Miss Me needs to be the constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes. She is a selfish, self-indulgent, self-serving narcissist who was raised as "daddy's little girl," and expects the same from you. Unless you enjoy the company of spoiled brats, stay far, far away.

9- Miss Desperate
Whether it's her baby clock ticking or she's the last of her girlfriends to trap a man, Miss Desperate wants to get married -- now. She doesn't care who the guy is or what he does -- as long as he's got a penis she can drag him to the altar. Watch out for this one!

10- Miss Turncoat
She's a conniving little piece of work who's an expert at conning men. Miss Turncoat will tell you exactly what you want to hear until you're hooked deep into the relationship (or married) and then the truth comes out. Overnight, your sweet little girl turns into a demanding, greedy, mercenary harpy who will browbeat you into submission if she doesn't get her way.

11- Miss Tease
Usually, you can spot Miss Teases a mile away because she flirts with anything in pants and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity. Sometimes she sponges off older men; sometimes she's a ball-buster who enjoys getting men sexually excited and then walking away; and sometimes she just basks in her sexual power by attracting men like bees to honey. No matter how she operates, you can't trust her because she craves male attention and if somebody better comes along, she'll dump you in a heartbeat.

12- Miss Controlling
She is a subtly nasty one who will wind up directing every phase of your life. She will tell you what to wear, where to go, who to talk to, what friends you can have, what you can eat -- everything. And if you try to stand up for yourself, she will cut off sex, cry, scream, pout, or use any other deceptive female tactic until you give in and succumb to her demands.

[error]

Thanks! Women, more trouble than they're worth. I don't think I've ever even met one who isn't in one of those categories. Now I'm certain I'm going to move up north of the notches and not see another woman as long as I live.

[kola]

that was good macolm. i think you covered it. 

i am shallow and still in search of a very old lady with lots of bucks.

now thats LOVE.

Kola

[srqrebel]

i am shallow and still in search of a very old lady with lots of bucks.

now thats LOVE.

Kola

In college, our accounting professor loved to pause in the middle of a long, boring lecture, and while maintaining his perfectly serious demeanor, would say, "Now listen up, guys.  If you get nothing else out of tonight's lecture, I want to make sure that you never forget these two things:
Steal big, and marry rich!"

[Pat K]

I was getting dinner one night at work
and the lady at the register said

Pat your not going with any one now are you?

I said no.

She said well i know a lot of single women,
what kind of ladys do you like?

I said rich and terminal.

She spit coffee about 2 feet.

[Lloyd Danforth]

that was good macolm. i think you covered it. 

i am shallow and still in search of a very old lady with lots of bucks.

now thats LOVE.

Kola

I'm looking for a twenty something heiress with a bucket of Viagra

[Raineyrocks]

How about the 10 women that men should run like hell from. It goes both ways, you know!

I agree totally!  I said that in my other post, SO LOOK AT IT BEFORE I BLOW MY LID AND GO PSYCHO!  Ha, ha, I was only giving an example of what kind of woman you should stay away from!    Now I'm going to the bank taking all of Rick's money, slicing his clothes into bits, and slicing his truck tires!  Why?  Because I can!  MAHAAWAA or however you spell that take over the world word.

[Raineyrocks]

lol..yeah rainey..see what you started. 


interesting that the author is a woman.

usually these "experts" are basket-cases themselves.

but I do agree that many women-beaters have certain tendencies, just like child molestors.

but not all.

Kola

But I wanted to start this Kola it was my hidden agenda because I'm nuts!

[Raineyrocks]

I can't imagine anyone running from Rainey!

Ruh-Roh!  You shouldn't read my 2 psycho posts then! 

[Raineyrocks]

Thanks! Women, more trouble than they're worth. I don't think I've ever even met one who isn't in one of those categories. Now I'm certain I'm going to move up north of the notches and not see another woman as long as I live.

Oh goody!  You'll live closer to me then!