Should women ask men out?

[Lloyd Danforth]

  Some of it even took place before the letters AIDS had any significance

I just did the math.....well......some math.  I'm guessing you were about 10 when Aids surfaced.

[Friday]

  Some of it even took place before the letters AIDS had any significance

I just did the math.....well......some math.  I'm guessing you were about 10 when Aids surfaced.

That's probably true, but it took a few years for knowledge of it to become widespread amongst the U.S. public.  And the Band Played On wasn't published until after I'd graduated from high school.

[Lloyd Danforth]

True, the info came out over a few years. I remember becoming concerned about Aids about 1980.  Herpes had become a big deal for a while, but, fell into the background when Aids surfaced.
The Free Love revolution went from over a decade of only worrying about catching something that could be cleared up with a pill, then Herpes, that never went away, to Sex might kill you!

[Russell Kanning]

And most of the guys I have dated in the past have not been libertarians.  So I am honestly curious to know what libertarian men in the 2000's think.

I know what a bunch of libertarian men are thinking right now ..... Friday is available for dates.

[John Edward Mercier]

I'd like to add a bit of background to this poll, to ward off unnecessary and, quite likely, off-target attempts to psychoanalyze me  :

#1) I have asked men out before.  I went to BERKELEY, fercrissakes.  My legs are hairier than YOURS (but only in the winter when you can't see  ).

#2) There is a school of thought, rooted in biology, that all things considered (meaning in general, obviously there are always exceptions), it is the male who is built to pursue sexually, and the female who is built to reject/accept as she chooses, and all the feminist horseshit in the world doesn't change that.  Human cultures vary over time and place; humans themselves... not so much.

#3) Most of my dating experience took place in a radically different cultural environment (the sexually omnivorous and culturally idiosyncratic bubble that is San Francisco, Berkeley and Marin County, California) than that in which I now live.  Some of it even took place before the letters AIDS had any significance (and I have the dead classmates to prove it  ).  And most of the guys I have dated in the past have not been libertarians.  So I am honestly curious to know what libertarian men in the 2000's think.

Thank you for the responses so far!

Each situation is different. I sense when a female is interested in me, but I may not pursue it for several reasons. If she were to confront me without the room to maneuver, I might have to hurt her feelings with a reason that might sound more like an excuse.

[J’raxis 270145]

I don't understand why any man would not want a woman to ask him out?

Traditionalist nonsense?

/Guess which way I voted...

[porcupine kate]

I'm also curious who has been asked out by women and who hasn't and how the relationships have worked out.

[kola]

my ex wife asked me out.

KOla

[Caleb]

I'm also curious who has been asked out by women and who hasn't and how the relationships have worked out.

I had a friend who asked me out. It lasted a few months, but then she decided to go back to her ex and try to work it out again. We're still friends.

[Kat Kanning]

I've never been asked out by a woman.

[Russell Kanning]

I'm also curious who has been asked out by women and who hasn't and how the relationships have worked out.

It has happened a couple of times (in one way or another) and worked out well .... or at least not any worse than if I had initiated everything.

[dalebert]

I'm also curious who has been asked out by women and who hasn't and how the relationships have worked out.

Yes. Once by an old classmate a little while after graduation. Another time in a (very) gay bar (wtf?). Didn't work out.

[Becky Thatcher]

I asked Tom over for dinner on our first date.  I would say it went well.  We've been together almost 22 years. 

[kola]

did u feed him "gramas special brownies"?

jk

kola

[Ron Helwig]

Looking him deep in his eyes and smiling really big and saying nice things about him -- perfect. Cause it lets him ask you out while still maintaining the illusion that it was his idea all along.

That is pretty bad advice. Too many of us libertarian and/or nerdy guys have no clue. I'd bet a lot of us would just assume that she is just being nice.