for some reason ridley (since he uses a vpn) can't see this site anymore
That would be me. It's a side effect of blocking spammers.
When spammers find out that I've blocked their IP addresses in Russia, China, Ukraine, Poland, India, etc. they switch to using open relays in the US. I've been careful to only block the addresses that are on the anti-spam databases or the ones that actually deliver spam when they first register here.
But it's your board, and if you want to put up with a dozen+ spammers per day I can stop doing it.
But if my understanding of how VPN anonamizers work, Ridley should be able to get though with just a few more clicks. I believe they choose open relays at random, and trying to connect again should get him a new IP.
Let me know which way you and Kat want me to go.