If my spouse turned crazy and ran off on me and turned my kids against me...I would have lost just about everything I have in the world that is precious to me. The only things I'd have left in all the world is my good name and the fact that my kids know I love them....I would fight for those things, the last things I had left on this earth, until the day I died...be that in a prison cell or out in the world.
I "get" that he wanted to spare his kid a trial and I "get" that he took the lesser sentence...but I can't understand what reason I would have for wanting to be out of jail and "free" if I could never see my kids again and if, for the rest of their lives, my children would be force fed the idea (unchallenged) that I victimized them for sexual enjoyment. I just....I would never, ever let that happen. I would never accept that sort of deal, I would sit in prison trying to do anything I could to fight my conviction...I would sit and wait for them to turn 18, in hopes that I could maybe send them a letter, try to spell out what happened and the fact that I never hurt them....anything, maybe hang myself, I don't know. I don't know how it would be to live in a jail for the rest of my life....but I do know this:
There are many things I could do, many things I could endure, to avoid life in prison. I could NEVER do anything that would solidify my crazy spouses assertion that I was an abusive monster...I would consider that an act of betrayal against my kids.
All that being said.....
1. The events leading up to all of this are VERY suspicious...especially if the wife really is nutso.
2. I know of quite a few reasons why a doctor would prescribe a salve which needed to be applied to a child's vulva...and can think of a couple of GOOD reasons why an adult would want to supervise that application!
3. He wouldn't be the first person to be 100% screwed over by a public defender who "didn't have the time" or inclination to give an innocent man a fair shake...
Sigh. I don't know what's worse...this poor little girl really having been victimized by her father and her father only getting a ten year sentence for doing such a thing...or this poor little girl having a loony toons mom and a sane, kind hearted father who can't save her from the mother because he;s in jail for something he didn't do.
But yeah. In most all scenarios I can understand the "don't judge him unless you have been in his situation" idea...but in this case, I know what I wouldn't do. I wouldn't let my kids believe I did that to them, heavens knows that this woman is going to put that into their heads forever, that their father is a bastard who hurt them. But I would never cop to it. I would never cop to doing something so freakin' bad....if I knew that either way I'd never get to see my kids again...it wouldn't really matter that I was going to be in jail. I'd rather be in jail for life and remain solid in my proclamation of innocence....than out of jail in ten years and have my kids think I admitted to it - cementing what their mother, no doubt, is telling them.
And besides...without your family there for you...what kind of life is really there for a guy in this kind of situation? The stigma of a sex crime conviction hanging over you for the rest of your life...overcoming and turning back the kind of changes one no doubt goes through in adjusting to life in prison. Where do you work after that? What kind of romantic life could you hope to have, you HAVE to tell women you date that you're a convicted offender...you know? I would never plead guilty to hurting my kids if I didn't....especially considering that living the life of a convicted sex offender in jail for ten years and then for life after getting out was as good as it gets.