Broken hearts suck.

[PattyLee loves dogs]

Does anyone have any idea of how to heal a broken heart?

Read Chun-hong Zhu's paper on transformation of muscle satellite cells into cardiomyocytes. Now:

1. Remove (biopsy) a sample of satellite cells from patient.
2. Telomerize using lenti vectors with cre/lox system and hTERT.
3. Grow up in cell culture under low-O2 conditions.
4. Remove telomerase from chromosomes with cre/lox system and select.
5. Cool patient, put on heart-lung machine, stop heart.
6. Microinject rejuvenated cells into affected cardiac areas.
7. Use lightning bolt to reanimate and style hair.

See, it's easy.

If your heart isn't completely broken, it may be low on maintenance. You probably just need some CoQ10 and a long walk on the beach, as everyone else suggested.

[porcupine kate]

My coworker and I have started going to the gym and dieting together.  We figured it would be harder to slip up if we pushed each other.   This should help the heart out.

Back to whining. 

I don't want to be home.  It sucks coming home to an empty house.  I have no motivation to do anything around here.  I haven't even rearranged any of the furniture.  Heck I'm still packing his stuff up.  I figured I would have a ton of time to work on all sorts of projects.  Instead I'm running out of the house to avoid being alone.  I'm going to move at the end of July when the lease runs out.  I just don't want to be here. 

[kola]

u like animals?  a kitty, dog, bird...horse?

and yeah, sometimes a new house/apt does wonders.

after my divorce i didnt want to see my ex anywhere nor my old house or the inlaws etc etc so i left NY and moved to Colorado. I started a new llife and left my old life some 2000+ miles away. I sold my truck and I bought a 1970 17ft motorhome( nothing but a big van), packed some clothes and my dog and headed out for new adventure.

best thing i ever did.

kola 

[Beth221]

Daisy says you can borrow her any time you need cheering up, she promises to take your mind off all things, with the help of some tomato sauce! 




(Daisy got hit by a skunk at Kates place..!)

[Ron Helwig]

Otis got to go for his first boat ride of the year this morning. 
Next time you're out at Little Minnesota, you might want to try chauffeuring him about the lake. 

[Russell Kanning]

Does anyone have any idea of how to heal a broken heart?

It took me a while, when it happened to me.

Doing positive stuff like:
creating things
hanging with cool friends
helping people who are in more pain than you

and for even more fun:
not following single guys advice
letting guys take you out to fancy restaurants and
tell you that you are beautiful

[Russell Kanning]

I'm betting all my money on the fact that Kate is more attractive than Mackler. 

amen sister

manners are attractive and Kate is a friendly helpful person

[Russell Kanning]

voo doo dolls.  they work great!

cool

and then of course forgive people like John said

and hide the voo doo dolls for special occasions

[Friday]

I'm betting all my money on the fact that Kate is more attractive than Mackler.   

You can insult me all you want.

My comment was a direct response to your telling Kate that, if she doesn't already have another man yet, she might want to think about working on her own physical attractiveness.

It might mean working on making yourself more attractive.  You can take a rigorously scientific approach to this that will get results.  What that means exactly will depend on who you are, but unless you're a supermodel there's room for improvement.

You also stated

you all give the worst advice.   Roll Eyes

Seems to me, I'm not the one being insulting.

[John]

Was thinking about this again.  I jumped in before without much reflecting.  It seems my quick answer/advice for everything these days is forgiveness.  Maybe that's because it took me SO LONG to fully find it.  I mean, for about 30 years I had (already) been really really good at forgiving most people and most things very quickly.  It was just those very few "VERY IMPORTANT" things which I had decided I had a right to resent --- which I "OWNED" the resentment towards --- which were secretly eating at me. Somewhere along the way those resentments began to become part of me.  It had taken a long time but finally one day, with tears in my eyes, I literally, and involuntarily slapped the palm of my hand into my forehead and cried "How could I have done this, to myself?"  On that day my life began to improve from the inside out . . . 
I just never want to think that I could have helped someone avoid this trap yet failed to mention it.

Anyway, heartbreaks are one of life's GREATEST STRESSORS.
We all know lots of advise about dealing with stress. To put some of that advise into practice is a swell idea at any time.  Today is always one of those days.
Stretch.
Breath.
Know that you have friends.
Et al.

In yoga, we have a pose called savasana.  It is said to be one of the most important. It is (physically) one of the simplest, yet also said to be one of the most difficult (mentally) for many people.
I have gained released much in this pose, because (hint) I don't "try" too hard (just often).

Someone recommended punching something.  I might recommend a pillow. Who wants to add extra stress on the hands at this time?

Finally - and maybe this just sounds insane at this time - as with the loss of any loved one it is important to remember the good times.
Cry when you need to, but don't forget to also smile!
Remember also that laughter is GREAT medicine!


Mental, emotional/spritual, and physical health feed on each other.  Taking care of each helps the others.
Please take care of your whole self!  There is more love for you out here than you "prolly" know.

[John]

The heart of the matter:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJb_Sq7_jjo&feature=related

" . . . We all need a little tenderness . . ."
" . . . and that war they put between us, well it doesn't keep us warm . . "
" . . . What are all these voices outside love's open door . . . that make us throw off our contentment/commitment and to yearn/crave for something more . . ."

" . . . you keep carrying that anger it will eat you up inside."
" . . . I think it's about forgiveness . . . even if, even if you don't love me anymore."

[John]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savasana

Contrary to (much/some) teaching, I very often meditate in savasana.
I forgive everything while in savasana.  In savasana I let go.
I even/especially forgive myself.  We must forgive ourselves to.

[porcupine kate]

Forgiveness will come.  I have even told him that.
It will take me time.  I will not take him back but I will forgive him.
I need to forgive myself first.  This is the hard part for me.  I think I have failed, that I screwed up and that is why he chose to leave me in such a bad way.  I didn't see it coming and I wasn't paying enough attention to him.  I couldn't get him to open up about what he was feeling before this mess.  I had no idea that he was unhappy.  I know he is an adult who chose to do the things he did.  But I still feel like I failed.

[kola]

i am old fashioned. i believe marriage was supposed to be forever no matter what. i was wrong.

things happen and often there is no fault or blame...and even if there is, it doesn't change things. 

heres a different version :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-CHQHYxQ7k&feature=related

[Caleb]

Forgiveness will come.  I have even told him that.
It will take me time.  I will not take him back but I will forgive him.
I need to forgive myself first.  This is the hard part for me.  I think I have failed, that I screwed up and that is why he chose to leave me in such a bad way.  I didn't see it coming and I wasn't paying enough attention to him.  I couldn't get him to open up about what he was feeling before this mess.  I had no idea that he was unhappy.  I know he is an adult who chose to do the things he did.  But I still feel like I failed.

Kate, when Alicia left I did the same thing. I replayed every mistake I had ever made and picked myself apart until I had virtually no self-esteem left. No one is perfect, so if you analyze yourself, you're going to find mistakes and flaws. All that means is that you're human, it doesn't mean that you deserve this.

If a person wants to be happy, they can be happy, because happiness is something that is inside you. If he wasn't happy, it wasn't your fault. Life has ups and downs, and sometimes you aren't on top of your game. That's life.

I know what I wanted to tell you earlier. I don't know what type of music you like, but when I finally started pulling out of my funk over Alicia leaving I was listening to a ton of Dave Matthews. I don't think it was him, per se, I just think that music in and of itself has healing power. So if you find some music that makes you feel like it's expressing what you feel, then maybe that would help you.