Broken hearts suck.

[Beth221]

in fear of bed bugs...! 

eww!

[John]

This sucks.  I still miss him.  I don't want him back but I do miss him.
Why do I miss a guy who dumped me in the worst way possible?

Well Kate,
Since you are a nice person with very real and loving feelings, you carry this.  If you were some sort of cold and indifferent [what word to use here? ] creature, this would not be bothering you.
It is one of the prices that those who care to love must sometimes pay.  It might not feel like it all the time, but - would you agree - we are better off to have loved and lost than to never have loved?

Think about anyone you know who ever lost anyone they love.  The more love the more hurt!
This kind of hurt is like other injuries; the more hurt the more important it is to be kind and gentle to oneself.
Give yourself time to heal.  Many injuries can keep acting up for years.

Missing Bill is quite likely to last for a long time; some days it will be less than others and some days not at all.

Maybe try this:
Think about the best advice you would give to a true friend who was in your exact circumstance. 

Really, think about that!

Maybe that's the best advice of all! 

[John]

BTW,
A couple years after moving to NH as part of the Free State Project, I had to revisit some old issues from the "way-back-machine." . . .
While no one knew quite how down I was, one very nice early mover Free Stater Lady (over the phone) picked up that I was a bit out of sorts and - in a tone as sweet as the lady in this song - she said, "Don't give up; You have friends here." 

If I can convey any of that sentiment today to you, Kate, it might help.  I know it mattered it great deal to me to hear it.

DON'T GIVE UP: YOU STILL HAVE US.

Please don't give up! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kl1rRxG251s

[kola]

Does anyone have any idea of how to heal a broken heart?

Sex. Yes, rebound fucks are good for you.

nice.

Theres a real girl (named Kate) behind her posted words and you spew out trashtalk like that? Try to act like  a man and not some snotty punk.


Kola

[porcupine kate]

Thanks Kola.

I'm not going to jump into bed with some guy as a way to get over the last one.  I would wind up in a relationship with the person.  This would not be good thing.  I don't have heart to have some poor guy deal with my emotional crap from the last guy.  Also I just couldn't jump in bed with a guy I didn't know or deeply cared about.  I will not do it.  The last time I had a long term relationship end it grossed me out that a bunch of my friends were hitting on me for rebound sex.  I couldn't do it then and I couldn't do it now.

The plan for the moment is to take it day by day.  I need to figure out what I want to do with my life now that I'm single.  I need to get used to me being single.  I've only been single for 2 months since 1991.  I know I need to take a lot of time for me right now.  This isn't easy for me.  I tend to take care of everyone and everything around me.  To stick to this I promised my sister I wouldn't get into another relationship right away.  Sometimes I need to do this to stick to something that will be hard for me to do.

[kola]

hang in there kate, you have already come a long way.

its funny I have been single for a while and actually am enjoying it. I used to hate eating by myself but now I kinda adjusted to it and find something to read while I eat or its the perfect time to feed my dog and cat and we eat together.

like I said before those first set of holidays are rough and IMO you have some good downtime before that stuff comes along.

Keeping busy is the best (and actually) for me I liked to sleep and did alot of it. Kinda like my escape zone.

kola

[John]

Not wanting to currupt this thread with all kinds of crappy songs<
I'll jump over here with those:  http://nhunderground.com/forum/index.php?topic=13883.msg239210#msg239210

[Cyro]

Does anyone have any idea of how to heal a broken heart?

Sex. Yes, rebound fucks are good for you.

nice.

Theres a real girl (named Kate) behind her posted words and you spew out trashtalk like that? Try to act like  a man and not some snotty punk.


Kola

Erm, did you even read the other post? Endorphins, I'm basically proposing a stronger version of the "chocolate" and "ice cream" answers. It's not like I'm telling her to be a hooker, if the solutions not for her, fine. This is an online message board, you can't expect me to instantly know what's going to offend someone and what isn't.

I know at least 2 women who would jump at that solution, seriously. It's not meant to be offensive or an insult, and there's no reason to treat me like less of a "man" (whatever the hell that means to you) because of it.

Chill.

Also, I'd like to apologise to anyone offended at my post, it wasn't my intent.

[Russell Kanning]

noone gets their hearts broken after chocolate or ice cream

[Cyro]

noone gets their hearts broken after chocolate or ice cream

Depends on if you just messed up your diet with them. 

Not everyone gets a broken heart after casual sex either. If it's a risk for her, then fine, ignore my suggestion, but you never know.

[mackler]

Does anyone have any idea of how to heal a broken heart?

Sex. Yes, rebound fucks are good for you.

nice.

Theres a real girl (named Kate) behind her posted words and you spew out trashtalk like that? Try to act like  a man and not some snotty punk.


Kola

Erm, did you even read the other post? Endorphins, I'm basically proposing a stronger version of the "chocolate" and "ice cream" answers. It's not like I'm telling her to be a hooker, if the solutions not for her, fine. This is an online message board, you can't expect me to instantly know what's going to offend someone and what isn't.

I know at least 2 women who would jump at that solution, seriously. It's not meant to be offensive or an insult, and there's no reason to treat me like less of a "man" (whatever the hell that means to you) because of it.

Chill.

Also, I'd like to apologise to anyone offended at my post, it wasn't my intent.

Don't take it personally, man.  A few of the folks on this thread are just really uptight about sex.

[Beth221]

well i was the first one to complain about his comment, it was rude harsh and just plan uncalled for, i understand what he meant by it now, it just sounded 100% immature, like his avatar, put the belly away son, no one wants to see your two pack.

I assure you, the reining New England Champ of Ladies Jello Wrestling is NOT one bit uptight about sex. 


My point of view on rebounding relationships, or lack of the relationship aspect is, every single rebound fuck I have had, I would still think about my last relationship, freak out, kick him out of bed, or not get off because my mind was else where, waisting my fucking time (yes pun intended).

Now, if you suggested going to an adult shop for a vibrator, that is a great Rx for feeling better. 

Rebound relationships are great for young men, under 25, who are not educated on what the fuuuuuck true love is.  Rebounding just gets you more ass, something which is not the answer for this situation.

Sincerely,
Razzelberry Beth

[Cyro]

well i was the first one to complain about his comment, it was rude harsh and just plan uncalled for, i understand what he meant by it now, it just sounded 100% immature, like his avatar, put the belly away son, no one wants to see your two pack.

Haha, the avatar is an "in joke" carried over from the FTL forums, I suppose it doesn't really follow here.. It wasn't meant to be rude or harsh, maybe a little blunt, but in my defense (aka. my excuse) I was a tad pished.

[Beth221]

yeah, well some here dont go on the ftl boards, glad you put the flab away. 

[Cyro]

yeah, well some here dont go on the ftl boards, glad you put the flab away. 

Okay, okay. I said I was sorry, enough with the cheap shots.